(A message for Christian wives)
Today on Apostolic Talkin, we are going to explain to the Sisters why you should “Stand By Your Man.” When it comes to the art of preaching, in general, the preacher praises women, but he seems to always challenge the man. Now, don’t get me wrong, I understand. I stand at 6’ 5” and weigh over 260lbs. Not too many individuals can scare me. But my wife does! And she has this act of standing up for other women. But to be honest, I think it has more to the fact that men, ever since Adam has been afraid of women. Although I may get my self in trouble, today’s PowerCast we will attempt to talk to the women about their men. We covet your prayers, for we are going to venture off where angels fear to tread.
While preparing for this PowerCast, we came across this tidbit of information. Back in 1968 a country & western singer by the name of Tammy Wynette co-wrote and sung this sung entitled “Stand By Your Man.” Now personally, the Outspoken Apostolic is not a fan of country & western music even when he was a worldly man. Nevertheless, this song became Ms. Wynette’s signature song. Today, I want to read you a portion of this song.
Stand By Your Man
“Sometimes it’s hard to be a woman
Giving all your love to just one man.
You’ll have bad times
And he’ll have good times,
Doin’ things that you don’t understand
But if you love him you’ll forgive him,
Even though he’s hard to understand
And if you love him oh be proud of him,
‘Cause after all he’s just a man”
At the present time, 1968, the women’s lib movement had engulfed the nation. When “Stand By Your Man” released, most so-called enlightened women ridicule Ms. Wynette. Calling her ridiculous was just one of the nicer things that were said about her. Females of that time questioned Ms. Wynette’s womanhood by challenging her with the question, “how could you dare endure bad times, while he enjoyed good times?” Now, Saints, there are a few principles that we are going to bring out during today’s PowerCast. Most of them will be from Ms. Wynette’s song. Today’s principles can help you keep a marriage for a lifetime.
Our first principle of the day is, you won’t always understand your man. Ms. Wynette put it this way, “Even though he’s hard to understand.” Sisters, let me tell you, this must be a true statement, she said it twice! But here’s the thing ladies, there has not been a man born that can understand his woman. Dr. John Gray’s book “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” pretty much tells it like it is. “Such is the mystery of marriage.” Men are impulsive, most of the time acting out of emotions. We/they never seem to weigh out the consequences of their actions. What do I mean by that, the men are asking. At times, a man will be hesitant, because he is not sure he is walking in the perfect will of God. Sisters, this is the time that he needs your patience and wisdom. You are listening to our PowerCast so I know you are in the perfect will of God knowing.
Genesis 2:18 Now the Lord God said, “It is not good (beneficial) for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper [one who balances him—a counterpart who is] suitable and complementary for him.”
Now dear Sisters, all jokes aside, God’s Word is plain here. You dear ladies were created to be a help-meet, a helper. Not a punching, not a slave, but a special creature who is loved not only by your Creator but your soulmate as well. Who should be a truly Godly man? Starting over has challenges of its own. And this statement moves us to our second principle.
Our second principle today is “If you love him, you’ll forgive him.” With the divorce rate in America, most of you know what I am talking about concerning our previous statement. “Starting over has challenges of its own.” Trust me when I say they may be some lawfully-begotten Godly law for divorce. Trust when I say I understand. Sometimes what you thought was the love of your life was actually a nut case. But I am going to be sweet here and NOT SAY that sometimes you ARE THE NUT CASE! But as an Outspoken Pastoral Counselor, I found that it doesn’t get much better the next go around. MOST OF THE TIME! Without forgiveness, no marriage will last, no matter if it is your first or fifth! There is no love without forgiveness and no forgiveness without love.
Our third principle is “Show the world you love him!” Sisters, this one could be tricky. Most men do not like mushy stuff in public. Here comes the tricky part. Men like mushy, but not in front of other men. A man never wants to give the appearance that they are soft. Dare I say that is one of the most embarrassing things that you can do to your man. Ladies, I am sure you are smart enough to know how to show your love without totally embarrassing him. (Wait a minute, I tell you what go ahead, embarrass him once in a while. He may need it ever once in a while.)
If you love him, be proud of him. “Him Man, Let Him Roar!” Ladies, it is in man’s nature to desire victory. As his help-meet, do your best to respect his desire. All men truly want to be needed and appreciated. It doesn’t matter how many awards his employment or the world gives him. No words of honor and respect will ever mean more to him than those coming from your mouth.
Our final principle is “After all, he’s just a man.” I can not stress this enough this is important to remember. “After all, he’s just a man.” Your husband may be an ethical man. He may be God-fearing as well as greatly used by God. I guess you could say he is your family’s Super-Dad! But trust me when I say this, he’s still a man. God created man so that he could go out and multiply. And in something that I the Outspoken Apostolic may never understand, God uses sexual attraction to accomplish this task. Sisters, sexual attraction comes to man as natural as breathing does. Here is you another trust me, ladies, if a man weren’t wired this way, you would never see him. He would either be, eating chicken or playing on the PlayStation.
Sisters, the same immoral spirit that lived in Potiphar’s wife is attacking your man every day. His morals are being challenged from friend requests to spam emails. And let us not forget porn and how easy it is to get. The temptation of promiscuity is everywhere. Satan is bombarding your man with everything in his bag of dirty tricks. His attacks are in 2 stages. He is trying to destroy his relationship with Jesus. After that, he’s coming for you. Because if he gets you, he can divide the family.
Not to mention your man must guard against the very APPEARANCE of evil. Dear Sisters, a man doesn’t just battle these things daily. It is a 24/7 battle that must be won.
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage must be honored among all and the marriage bed kept undefiled, for God will judge sexually immoral people and adulterers.
YOUR HUSBAND IS NOT TO BE NEGLECTED!
Paul, being used of God reminds us of the importance of keeping the marriage bed undefiled. Now a lot of women get mad when told this. If you are one of them, I ask you to study the Word of God. But one of the methods of keeping the marriage bed undefiled INVOLVES YOU! YOUR HUSBAND IS NOT TO BE NEGLECTED! This means you have to do your part to keep the fire burning in your marriage. Just because you and he stood in front of a pastor and said I do, his sexual attraction did not stop. You are not the only woman he will ever see. You are not even the only woman he will find attractive. Do me a solid and don’t go running to him and slap him upside the head. Just take my word for it. Also, don’t go ask him if it’s true. The Bible tells us not to be a stumbling block, and we don’t want him to sin!
It is important to realize that your husband is human. You, my dear Sister, should be thankful that you have a husband that is in Church. Many of our Sisters don’t. Your husband’s pursuit of Christianity should be cherished. Admire his walk with God. No matter how high of a plateau he reaches or how big he bottoms out, he needs you as his number one fan.
Some Godly Advice
Let me give you some friendly Godly advice. Never use his failures as a bargaining chip. Never speak badly of him in a public setting. (Unless you are looking for a fight.) The Bible teaches you to respect him for the man that he is. I can make this promise to you, if you will do these things I am trying to teach you today, you will help him be the man God created him to be. Sisters, he can deal with the criticism of the world, but it will break his heart if it comes from you.
Proverbs 5:18-19 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife you married in your youth 19 a loving doe, a graceful deer; may her breasts satisfy you at all times, may you be captivated by her love always.
Sisters, unless it is a change for the better, be the same loving, graceful doe he married. You stood before God and made a promise to stand by his side. If you knew that you were marrying a man that was in the ministry, don’t leave him alone to be about our Father’s business. Be his help-meet, be his love. The same goes for you men. There is nothing no more beautiful than a Holy Ghost filled Holiness woman. Besides your physical beauty, he was attracted to your pursuit of righteousness.
Do everything in your power to make your home a peaceful home. A place of rest that he can come home to. Make sure you have a praying home, pray with him and for him. Be of encouragement for him in his ambitions as well as his walk with Jesus. I understand that this is a heavy responsibility in the marriage, but this is precisely why God chose YOU to be his soulmate.
So when you’ve done all you can to stand …
Stand by your man!
Give him two arms to cling to
And something warm to come to
When nights are cold and lonely
Stand by your man,
And show the world you love him
Keep giving all the love you can
Stand by your man!